*He needs a pseudonym and is not content with Gay Boyfriend. The initials stick until inspiration strikes.
The broader implication is this: that one's own collaboration with mass-approved violence - i.e., institutional racism, First World nationalism, and apathetic complacency - doesn't count. Climb the corporate ladder, buy American, tune out on Prozac - these silences equal death. But there's a popular illusion that 'violence' is limited only to the physical, the actual contact of skin on skin. What about the daily devastation of poverty, the lack of child care, the shortage of clean air, the sight of children going without - and one's own active or passive participation in these devastating institutions? If Jane Six Pack hits you, she's a lower-class bitch. If Jane Six Pack sits in her air-conditioned stockbroker suite investing in Latin America, it's affirmative action.
-Veena Cabreros-Sud, "Kicking Ass"
There is no Patriarch Headquarters, with flags and limousines, where all the strategies are worked out.It would be so much more convenient if there was. I'd apply for a travel grant to visit Patriarch Headquarters - give a quick slideshow presentation, have a light lunch, effect some change in the social order. I'd make a day of it.
-R.W. Connell, Masculinities
What is hardest to accept about the passage of time is that the people who once mattered the most to us are wrapped up in parentheses (John Irving - I know, I'm sorry, but it’s true).I cried at the wedding – don’t tell anyone (and that was even before I started dipping into the fountain of cosmopolitans). Not at the legally-obliged-to-be-everlasting-love, but at watching two people so dear to me dancing and smiling and nothing but each other, oblivious to the fireworks of camera flashes. Quintessential wedding moment: the inevitable dance with that guy who spills his beer down the back of your dress as he's trying to grab your ass.